Share the Load

Are you sharing the load fairly?

A free tool that helps partners understand their household workload together. Data that removes communication barriers and shows what's really happening. Used by couples and counselors.

Methodology

MET-Based

Metabolic equivalents from exercise science research

Privacy

100% Local

All data stays in your browser. Nothing leaves your device.

Cost

Free Forever

No sign-up, no subscription, no hidden fees.

Not all hours are equal


168

Hours per week

Everyone has 168 hours per week. But an hour of scrubbing floors (3.8 METs) demands far more from your body than an hour of meal planning (1.5 METs). An hour coordinating family schedules and appointments requires sustained mental focus that leaves you drained.

This audit doesn't just count hours—it weights them by effort, both physical and cognitive, to reveal your household's true balance.

Physical Effort

We use Metabolic Equivalents (METs) from exercise science. 1 MET = resting quietly. Tasks above 2.3 METs receive multipliers to reflect their higher physical cost.

Range: 1.0× – 2.6× multiplier

Cognitive Effort

Invisible labor like meal planning, scheduling, and project management creates mental drain even when physically light. We apply cognitive multipliers to tasks requiring anticipation and monitoring.

Range: 1.3× – 1.5× multiplier

01

Baseline

Enter your work hours, sleep, and personal care time. This defines your available hours for household labor.

02

Task Audit

Track monthly hours across 50+ household tasks. The calculator converts to weekly and applies effort multipliers.

03

Results

See your weighted hours, effort split, and true rest—the leisure time left after accounting for household burden.

Research behind the multipliers


Physical Effort: Metabolic Equivalents (METs)

METs measure the energy cost of physical activities relative to rest. Our multipliers are derived from the Compendium of Physical Activities, a peer-reviewed reference standard that catalogs MET values for hundreds of activities.

SOURCE

Ainsworth BE, Haskell WL, Herrmann SD, et al. (2011). 2011 Compendium of Physical Activities: a second update of codes and MET values. Medicine and Science in Sports and Exercise, 43(8):1575-1581.

Baseline1.0×
2.0–2.5 METs

Folding laundry, dishes

Moderate1.3–1.5×
3.0–3.5 METs

Vacuuming, cooking complex meals

Heavy1.7–2.2×
4.0–5.0 METs

Raking, mowing, weeding

Vigorous2.5–2.6×
5.8–6.0 METs

Scrubbing floors, moving furniture

Cognitive Effort: Invisible Labor

Research by sociologist Allison Daminger identified four cognitive phases of household management: anticipation, identification, decision-making, and monitoring.

SOURCE

Daminger, A. (2019). The cognitive dimension of household labor. American Sociological Review, 84(4):609-633.

Active Thinking · 1.3×

Research, judgment, sustained attention (bills, gift shopping, homework help)

Invisible Management · 1.5×

Anticipation, delegation, monitoring (meal planning, insurance, calendars)

Why Combine Physical & Cognitive?

Some tasks are purely physical (mowing), some purely cognitive (taxes), and some are both (grocery shopping with a list you had to create).

We take the higher of the two multipliers to capture the dominant burden, ensuring no task is underweighted.

Common questions


Absolutely. All calculations happen in your browser. Nothing is sent to a server, stored in a database, or tracked. Your audit data never leaves your device.

Many household tasks (like deep cleaning, yard work, or taxes) happen irregularly. Monthly tracking captures these more accurately. The calculator converts everything to weekly hours for comparison.

We've included 50+ common tasks across six categories. If something is missing, use the closest equivalent. For example, "organizing garage" might map to "minor repairs" or "moving furniture" depending on the physical effort.

The physical multipliers are based on peer-reviewed MET values from exercise science. Cognitive multipliers are informed by research on invisible labor but are more subjective. We include a ±10% confidence band to account for individual variation.

There's no universal target—every household is different. A leisure gap under 5 hours/week suggests balance. Over 10 hours suggests one partner bears significantly more burden and may benefit from redistribution.

Currently, the audit is designed for two-partner households. For multi-generational or shared living situations, you might need to adapt the baseline calculations or run multiple pairwise audits.

Ready to understand your workload?

Start your free analysis now. No sign-up required, completely private, takes 10-15 minutes.