Are you sharing the load fairly?

Data-Driven Fairness at Home

Who's actually doing what around the house? This free calculator puts real numbers on it, so you can stop guessing and start talking.

Methodology

MET-Based

Built on the same metabolic scoring used in exercise science

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Not all hours are equal


168

Hours per week

Everyone has 168 hours per week. But an hour of scrubbing floors (3.8 METs) takes a lot more out of you than an hour of meal planning (1.5 METs). And an hour spent coordinating family schedules and appointments? That kind of sustained mental juggling is exhausting in a completely different way.

So we don't just count hours. We weight them by effort, physical and cognitive, to show what the workload actually looks like.

Physical Effort

We borrow Metabolic Equivalents (METs) from exercise science. 1 MET is what your body burns sitting still. Once a task crosses 2.3 METs, it gets a multiplier because your body is genuinely working harder.

Range: 1.0× – 2.6× multiplier

Cognitive Effort

Meal planning, scheduling, keeping track of who needs what by when. None of it is physically demanding, but it occupies your brain in a way that's genuinely tiring. Tasks that require anticipation and ongoing monitoring get their own multipliers.

Range: 1.3× – 1.5× multiplier

01

Baseline

How many hours do you work, sleep, and spend on personal care? That tells us how much time you actually have available for household stuff.

02

Task Audit

Go through 50+ household tasks and log your monthly hours. We convert everything to weekly figures and apply the effort multipliers.

03

Results

Your weighted hours, the effort split between partners, and your true rest: how much genuine leisure each person has once the household burden is accounted for.

Research behind the multipliers


Physical Effort: Metabolic Equivalents (METs)

METs measure how much energy an activity costs compared to sitting still. The multipliers we use come from the Compendium of Physical Activities, a peer-reviewed reference that has cataloged MET values for hundreds of activities since 1993.

SOURCE

Ainsworth BE, Haskell WL, Herrmann SD, et al. (2011). 2011 Compendium of Physical Activities: a second update of codes and MET values. Medicine and Science in Sports and Exercise, 43(8):1575-1581.

Baseline1.0×
2.0–2.5 METs

Folding laundry, dishes

Moderate1.3–1.5×
3.0–3.5 METs

Vacuuming, cooking complex meals

Heavy1.7–2.2×
4.0–5.0 METs

Raking, mowing, weeding

Vigorous2.5–2.6×
5.8–6.0 METs

Scrubbing floors, moving furniture

Cognitive Effort: Invisible Labor

Sociologist Allison Daminger broke household management down into four cognitive stages: anticipation, identification, decision-making, and monitoring. Most of it is invisible to anyone who isn't doing it.

SOURCE

Daminger, A. (2019). The cognitive dimension of household labor. American Sociological Review, 84(4):609-633.

Active Thinking · 1.3×

Research, judgment, sustained attention (bills, gift shopping, homework help)

Invisible Management · 1.5×

Anticipation, delegation, monitoring (meal planning, insurance, calendars)

Why Combine Physical & Cognitive?

Mowing is almost entirely physical. Taxes are almost entirely mental. Grocery shopping with a list you had to plan? Both.

For each task, we take the higher of the two multipliers so the dominant burden is what counts. No task gets shortchanged.

Common questions


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A lot of household work happens on irregular schedules. You might deep clean once a month, do taxes once a year, or mow the lawn every two weeks. Monthly tracking catches these tasks that a weekly view would miss. The calculator handles the conversion to weekly hours.

There are 100+ tasks across ten categories, but every household is different. If yours is missing something, add a custom task. Describe what it involves and the calculator will figure out the right effort multiplier from the physical and cognitive demands.

The physical multipliers come from peer-reviewed MET values used in exercise science, so those are on solid ground. The cognitive multipliers draw on research into invisible labor but are inherently harder to pin down. That is why we show a ±10% confidence band around the results.

It depends on your household. If the leisure gap between partners is under 5 hours per week, things are roughly balanced. Over 10 hours means one person is carrying a much heavier load, and it is probably worth talking about how to shift some of that.

Right now it is built for two-partner households. If you are in a multi-generational home or shared living situation, you could run separate audits for different pairs, but it is not a perfect fit. Broader household support is something we would like to add eventually.

Find out where the time actually goes

The whole thing takes about 10-15 minutes. No sign-up, totally private, and free.

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